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The Virus Of Fear

Fear is contagious. If you are not properly equipped for when the check engine light comes on it can be debilitating. We have all received more emails and communications then we can imagine about the COVID-19 virus so this is not meant to add to that forum. Instead, it is hoped that by equipping you with some emotionally intelligent views on addressing fear, your children will be better equipped to handle whatever challenges life brings them.

Consider the following five points are a part of the buffet – they will only be useful if you scoop them onto your plate.

  1. Identify if you are a first responder or a first reactor. First reactors approach things with a negative outlook, which leads to panic and an inability to develop a sound method of addressing difficult situations. First responders approach problems and situations with their emotions intact, which helps them gain a clear picture of the circumstances and leads them to consider the most advantageous method of problem solving.
  2. Understand that fear is a brain function. When we respond with fear, our brains activate defense mechanisms, which actually cloud our ability to make thoughtful decisions.
  3. Fearful parents model fear as a worldview. Children of fearful, anxious parents many times develop anxiety as a result. Take time to understand when and how fear became on option for you.
  4. Fear fuels anger and all of the related negative consequences.
  5. When we are fearful, the circumstances control us.

In the face of unusual and challenging circumstances, leaders reject fear and move forward with clear minds, which produces calm. Parent leaders effectively model how to handle situations instead of allowing situations to handle them.

It is time for the parent leaders in each family to emerge and produce a realistic outlook for their children that is rooted in responding to the daily challenges life presents.

March 15, 2019 - Zambia

Able to see some animals on a reserve and a baby elephant orphanage. This has truly been a time of blessings for me. Traveling home in a few hours. Welcome your prayers for a safe return home.

Lilayi Elephant Nursery
Elephants
Wildlife
Wildlife
Giraffe
Giraffe

March 14, 2019 - Zambia

I walked away yesterday from our afternoon meeting a bit confused but not discouraged. It is not easy to understand all of the academic processes but it is safe to say that there is a need for us to return as lecturers in the future. The plan is to organize for 2020. The sixth year medical students have established a community outreach to teach high school students about health and they need some assistance organizing the information about mental health. We can definitely collaborate with them from home to provide support.

Tomorrow we will go to a baby elephant orphanage and take a tour of an animal reserve so expect some pictures.

March 13, 2019 - Zambia

Well, the students showed up – we have about 110 completed questionnaires and it looks like we may have identified a need at the medical school. God’s hand has been in this the entire way.

We delivered the sterile surgical gloves to the obstetrics department in the teaching hospital and were greeted with enthusiasm and appreciation. The pictures below of Myself and Kelsie with the nurses and the red bag show their joy. Thanks to my sister’s donation, I was able to leave over 600 gloves to help with deliveries.

Tomorrow we meet to discuss lecture opportunities in the future that will give under graduate and graduate students a chance to share their knowledge while experiencing the Zambian culture.

This entire trip was first born out of the years of foundational work by the late Dr. Cheryl Snyder and is truly dedicated to her. During our visit here in 2017 she prayerfully told me that I would be returning in this capacity. I continue to learn from her example of trusting wholly in God for direction.

Dr. Slover and Zambia Nurses
Kelsie and Zambia Nurses

Zambia Pics 2019

I wanted to share some pictures from my 2019 trip to Zambia.

You can click on each image to view it full screen.

Zambia Wall

Yes that is a wall with shards of class glued to the top. Even in Zambia . . . hmmmm

A visitor in my apartment.

A visitor in my apartment.

My favorite Zambian meal

My favorite Zambian meal

Random roadside business

Random roadside business

Random roadside business

Random roadside business

Colorful cleaning supplies for sale

Colorful cleaning supplies for sale

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