To my children on Father’s Day. . .
I robbed you of this day when I did not marry my match under the healthy circumstances required to build a strong foundation under a marriage. This is not a letter of regrets but a writing to acknowledge how difficult your lives have been because you did not have a father to raise you. You missed out on the daddy love that only men can give. The leadership with authority and service that only men can give. The example of how to be a man for my sons and how to choose a man for my daughter that only a man can give. Many of life’s challenges are rooted in this deficiency for each of you. I admit that my actions contributed to this loss as a relationship involves two people doing it right or wrong. This is an instance when no action can resolve your experience. Some things just need to be addressed in a formal manner. . .
To fathers, I ask that you lead your families with the heart of a servant, and that you acquire the knowledge of what that looks like. Your role has been discounted and dumbed down. However, you are important indeed. All it takes is one man to stand up and be a father to his child(ren) and the example will multiply others to step back into their roles. Happy Father’s Day, 2018.